Wednesday, March 3, 2010
( because its funny - not that it relates to the rest of this tangent)
I'm a big believer in signs and I have impeccable intuition if I would just listen to it more. something tells me write a blog about the Five languages of love written by Gary Chaptman.
why... not sure but all week on the radio they kept referring to this theory. Then today in class we discussed how people react differently/handle things in various ways and finally, Shabu's latest blog was on " the one that got away" - I'm good at people. And I have a strong opinion if you understand why someone does something or feels a certain way then communication is TEN TIMES easier. we all heard " the secret to making any relationship work is COMMUNICATION ( which ties into understanding)
Now I've read this book but if you haven't I highly suggest you pick it up. But here's the gist. .
# 1 Words of Affirmation
"Actions don’t always speak louder than words. If this is your love language, unsolicited compliments mean the world to you. —hearing the reasons behind them sends your spirits skyward. Insults can leave you shattered and are not easily forgotten. "
#2 Quality Time
" nothing says, “I love you,” like full, undivided attention. Being there for this type of person is critical, Distractions, postponed dates, or the failure to listen can be especially hurtful. "
# 3 Gifts
"Don’t mistake this love language for materialism; the receiver of gifts thrives on the love, thoughtfulness, and effort behind the gift. the perfect gift or gesture shows that you are known, you are cared for,A missed birthday, anniversary, or a hasty, thoughtless gift would be disastrous—so would the absence of everyday gestures. "
#4 Acts of Service
anything you do to ease the burden of responsibilities weighing on an “Acts of Service” person will speak volumes. The words he or she most want to hear: “Let me do that for you.” Laziness, broken commitments, and making more work for them tell speakers of this language their feelings don’t matter.
Last but not least
#5 Physical touch
isn’t all about the bedroom. A person whose primary language is Physical Touch is, not surprisingly, very touchy. Hugs, pats on the back, holding hands, and thoughtful touches on the arm, shoulder, or face—they can all be ways to show excitement, concern, care, and love. Physical presence and accessibility are crucial, while neglect or abuse can be unforgivable and destructive.
the cool thing to this is not only do you feel most loved with a certain language but you show your love by one too.
check out what it says you are. I think i could safely guess what most of my close friends are....
I'm not sure i totally agree with mine. it said words of affirmation is my highest score but I'm a big believe actions speak louder so I say the second highest of quality time and physical touch. but....